Breastfeeding Photos on Facebook Removed from "Respect the Breast" Page.
There are so many things that bother me about this headline.
I'll start with the obvious- Respect the Breast is a totally stupid name. Well, it is. Sorry. But then there is the larger issue, of Facebook feeling the need to censor a harmless mommy group. That is beyond stupid.
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I am a feminist. I am a mother. I breastfed my child. I think it is ridiculous that we stigmatize breastfeeding in this country. Jesus, there are plenty of women flaunting half naked pictures of themselves on Facebook. Why Facebook decided to take up the anti-breastfeeding charge- I am not sure. It all seems really stupid to me. I totally understand why these women are pissed. Breastfeeding is good for the baby, it's good for the mother- and we all generally agree that it's the best way for a child to get its nourishment for the first year of its life and beyond.
It's just too bad that milk has got to come out of a nipple. Boy, do we hate nipples.
Go grab a Victoria's secret catalog. I know you have one- they send me like, five a month, and I haven't bought anything from them in years. Okay, now start flipping through the pages. Notice the beautiful demi-cut bra with the transparent lace overlay? How about the super thin modal cotton sleep shirt? Notice something missing? Yes, that would be her nipples. That fabric is totally see-through, but not a nipple in sight. No nipples allowed in this country. Unfortunately, breastfeeding a child usually involves flashing your nipple for a millisecond- so, yeah- nobody wants to see that.
Now go to your cable box and search for an episode of The Walking Dead. Hit the guide button, then hit the "b" and type in your search. That's how you do it- in case you have children who suck up all of your leisure TV time, and have forgotten how to use your cable remote.
Depending on the episode you find, you may get the pleasure of seeing a 10 year old boy shot through the chest with a rifle bullet. Oooh- or you may see someone saw off their own hand. You'll definitely see a zombie sucking out someones brain at some point. But you won't see a nipple. Nipples are disgusting. Just to recap: the undead feasting on the flesh of the living- fine. Woman pulling out her tit to breastfeed- disgusting! Vulgar! Stop her!
It's crazy that we make women feel so uncomfortable about this necessary, biological process. First, we shove the necessity of it down her throat throughout her pregnancy. Than, when she actually agrees that it is best for her and her child, and attempts to do it- we make it shameful. What the hell?
I was very discreet when I breast fed Lucien, almost to the point of discomfort. Don't get me wrong, I didn't let it stop me from feeding him in public, but I was armed with wraps and cover-ups, basically creating a sweat lodge for the poor baby. God forbid I let a nipple slip. And I'm not even a bashful person. The social stigma involved in pulling out your breast to feed your child obviously got to me. That is why I am so impressed by these women, who are seemingly oblivious to the world around them when they do it.
I know such a woman. She struts into the restaurant where I work on the weekend, orders her food, gets comfortable- and than proceeds to pull out her boob and rest it on the table until her son is ready to eat. I am not shitting you. Her boob just sits on the table like it belongs there. I'm not quite sure why she does this. I have boobs, and really don't find them that exciting. But I can't seem pull my eyes away from hers. Really, I can't. And neither can anyone else. The whole room is transfixed on her. I'm absolutely sure that this is just an indication of how repressed our society is. We ban harmless nudity from advertising. We somehow collectively decided that it was OK to see someone stabbed to death, but not OK to see them naked. I'm a product of our ridiculously repressed yet violent culture, too- as much as I hate to admit it. I can't stop staring at her nipples either.
But back to this lady. She's pretty fantastic.
She comes in every weekend, and every weekend I am impressed by her ability to seemingly not notice that the whole room is staring at her. On the one hand- I think women like this make the cause more difficult, because people get so freaked out by their blatant disregard for social norm that they recoil at the sight of anyone breastfeeding. On the other hand, she is my hero.
I've actually found myself thinking, What is she doing? Why be so blatant? But you know what, why not? We ladies have to stick together- and if that means standing behind this woman and her right to pull out her boobs and set them on the table until she's good and ready to feed her son- damn it, I'm doing it.
Basically what I'm saying is, our culture is totally f-ed up. We need to show more titties, and less violence. We need to stop harassing women for breastfeeding. And if it makes you really uncomfortable- you need to reach into your psyche, and think Why?
We have a hell of a lot of problems in this country- and nipples didn't cause any of them.
I'm pro-boob, and you should be, too.